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Free Yourself: Releasing the Burden of Anger

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The time has come to drop all the burdens that are hindering our flight and take wing on our joyous journeys…

We all truly wish to truly be free.  This 4 letter word holds so much depth, meaning, and power. What does it mean to truly be free?

A simple definition of the word is as follows:

FREE

adj 1. Not under the control of power of another; able to act or be done as one wishes

      2. Not restrained

verb 1. Released from captivity

So, are you truly free?  

I certainly hope so.

However if you are still holding on to anger, then you ARE under the power of another, the person or ideology are angry with.  You are allowing another to make you feel bitter and enraged.

So how to you remedy this, and become free?

First, let’s explore anger:

Anger  slowly poisons the soul.

At times we all have been angry.  We have all been wronged or betrayed in some manner.  The problem comes when we hold onto this anger instead of letting it pass through us.  Many times we feel a sense of self-righteous indignation — that sense of “I have been wronged, so I deserve to be angry”. In that moment you anger seems justified, and becomes hard to let go of.

Let me ask you this:  How does this feel?  Though you may have a momentary endorphin rush at the onset of such anger, as time progresses and you hold on — the tide will turn.  You begin to feel bitter, resentful, and this anger begins to eat away at you.  You become less joyful and vibrant. You may even begin  to feel depressed.  It is said that depression is anger turned inward.

Take action to free yourself from this corrosive emotion:  I suggest these three things, in any order.

  1. Step Away for The Situation: Shift your focus completely away from that which angers you.  Distract yourself if need be.  Do whatever it is that brings you happiness and joy in the moment, and shifts your  attention.    You may, at this time which to separate yourself from that which is making you angry.  This will allow you to draw your attention away.  Now, take some time for you!  Use this time to clear your head; meditate, listen to music, take a walk,or  be creative.  There are numerous possibilities.   Now that you have shifted your focus away from you anger, you begin to feel a lifting of this burden, and freedom is knocking on your door.
  2. FORGIVE, FORGIVE FORGIVE:  Forgiveness is key. I see there being two ways to forgive, the first is when both parties accept responsibility, apologies are made and kinship is restored.  There my be those who hurt you in manner that you have to cut cords with them, however, always remember to to forgive and send the person away with love. When we forgive another we do not have to approve of their actions. I think Maya Angelou stated it the most eloquently:    “And that doesn’t mean you invite who or what ever it is, to sit at your table and dine with you. It’s about love. You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean forced sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say: I forgive. I’m finished with it.” -Maya Angelo
  3. Let It Go — COMPLETELY:  Do not allow this situation to inhabit your thoughts or feelings any longer.  Do not give it any of your energy.  Move forward with a clean slate and embrace joy and possibility.

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I hope this writing has encouraged you to examine areas of you being in which you may be holding on the anger and resentment, and more than that I hope it has empowered you to release this burden, and given you a greater sense of freedom; mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

My wish for each of  you, is that you can experience true freedom, joy, and bliss in all areas of your being, and in your life.  I hope you will continue to join me, as we explore other ways to increase our freedom personally, and as a whole.

For now,

Ever-loving,

Amanda

(Aka  Lydia)

In Times of Great Chaos: Love Fiercely

Journeying Through Life’s Challenges and Triumphs (And Lessons Learned)

Earlier today, I was talking with a dear friend about my life at this moment.  I was discussing some recent challenges, and that I was proud of myself for handling them with more ease and grace than I would have in the past.

She then reminded me that it’s more about the journey, than the destination.  Though I had heard this concept many other times, even perhaps written about it… when she said it to me, it really resonated and got me thinking.

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Many times in our life, especially when something challenging arises, it is easy to put all of our hopes, dreams, and attention on something that is in the future.  A time when our challenges are past, or our goals accomplished; and while it is good to look forward to the path ahead of us.  We must also appreciate the hurdles in our existence.  Don’t let them define you, do not become so adrift in emotion that you cannot appreciate the lessons that life is teaching you.  Even during the more challenging times.

I am most certainly not saying not to feel these emotions, but rather to let them pass through you and to rise above the fear, sadness, etc. to a place of acceptance.  When we accept our circumstances, even if they are not the ones we would have chosen, we free ourselves to react in a much more calm and aware state.  We can find the small joys that may arise during challenging times, reflect on the many things we have to be grateful for, and move forward.

When we do this we triumph over fear, and learn lessons far greater than if we had been crippled by our emotions.

If we look at our life as a journey, like a winding adventure, we navigate our path in such a manner that we find more joy, and happiness.    Choosing love and a positive outlook over fear, is not always the easiest choice… fear can hook you and suck you in at times.  However, it is always the most worthy and rewarding choice.  It is the choice in which we give ourselves the greatest freedom, joy, acceptance, and self love; as well as contributing to the betterment of all those we encounter by sharing our love and positive outlook with them as well.

I hope this has helped you to realize, that we all have rough moments.  It is how we harness and transform the energy of those moments which will help us to rise to greater levels of understanding.   It is all a shift in perception really.

So, as you meander through the many paths that life will place in front of you on your journey… remember — your are loved, you are love, and you are worthy.

Love for me to you,

Amanda

Shine YOUR Light at All Times: Be Luminant

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“This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine…”  I remember very clearly singing these lyrics as a small child, and a hope welled up within me — that I would be able to shine my light throughout my life.  Then a smile crossed my face, because somewhere within me, I knew no matter what I would be able to do this.   This is my request to each of you today.  Find your inner “light” however you may define it.  That spark in your soul that makes you feel alive, and share it with the world in the most positive way possible – and remember, the possibilities are endless.

Since I have grown from that small child of 5 years of age of so, I have faced many challenges that have made me feel like the light has grown quite low.  Like a candle flame growing smaller and flickering — on the edge of extinguishing.  I will not delve into specific circumstance, because I do not seek pity or sympathy.  I simply want to explain that even if you don’t feel this light within yourself at all in this moment, it is there.  It never extinguishes…  that is not the essence of this light. This light will never abandon you.

Call it whatever you wish, God, Source, Love, Energy, or put not title on it at all.  Just dig deep to what drives you.  Think about about what truly brings a smile to you face, and your heart; be it family, friends, pets, music, dancing, writing, giving; whatever brings you joy.  That feeling that you have when you are with or involved in these facets of you life is what sparks your soul.  Start doing more of those things — the things that bring you serenity, joy, peace, love and happiness.

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Make yourself happy first.  Stop defining yourself by how pleased anyone else is with you.  No matter how significantly you have been judged, hindered, or completely shattered… you are still here.  You have survived what many others would have submitted to, and you have risen like a Phoenix above that, to be the person you are now.  So take a moment, breath it in, and really REALLY think…what does, or would, make ME truly happy?  For those who are happy are luminant.  Fill yourself up with this feeling.  Let it brim over your being.

This is how you shine your light.  By being absolutely yourself. Not by following anyone else’s guidance and rules, not even this — unless it resonates/ or clicks with you.

As Buddha states,

“BELIEVE NOTHING, NO MATTER WHERE YOU READ IT, OR WHO SAID IT, NO MATTER IF I HAVE SAID IT, UNLESS IT AGREES WITH YOUR OWN REASON AND YOUR OWN COMMON SENSE.”

When you truly come into your own and allow yourself to become saturated in what makes YOU happy, your joy will radiate and you will influence others.  Be it intentional, or something that you are unaware of.  A simple smile at that stranger you walk past on the street may brighten their day more than you ever imagined.  A kind word, a helping gesture, a phone call to someone that you haven’t spoken to in awhile… like I mentioned earlier, the possibilities are endless.  Radiate your abundant happiness throughout your  being, your home, your community, your state, your country — or from a chair in a corner of your room on the internet (  ❤ ), which is my intent for this morning!

So I leave all of you with a bit of MY light, because though it has flickered in the past it radiates now, and I have plenty enough to share.  Know that you are loved, even when you feel the most broken and alone.  Know that you are worthy of happiness, and more. Worthy of love, worthy of an abundant and prosperous life… and I don’t mean simply materialistic… but with an abundance of the things that nurture and excite YOUR soul.

YOU,the one reading this NOW, it is my greatest wish at this moment, that you truly embrace your worth. Know that you are loved by many, including myself. I love you for the love you give to the world, for all the ways you have been broken and mended yourself.  I love you for being who you are and contributing to this journey called life.

Continue to shine your light… as brightly as ever!

Much love, as always,

Amanda

Resilience: Turning Challenges into Moments of Triumph, Joy, and Power

As each of us begins to stand more firmly in our TRUTH and the illusory falls away; we may encounter experiences which we find challenging.

At times it becomes frustrating when we feel circumstance is beyond our control, or we cannot simply fix an unpleasant situation.

One thing to keep in mind is, it is all about perspective.  Do not allow yourself to fall into the victim, or “why me” mind set.  Instead realize that these experiences are a catalyst for growth, and many times great positive change. You have absolute control over how you handle yourself in such situations.

Triumph over challenges by staying centered amid chaos.  I mentioned in a previous post that we all have a place within ourselves that is unshakable.  In challenging moments focus your energy not on the problem, but rather how to use the lessons from this experience in your personal journey to grow.

Let go of attachments as to how you though things should have been.  Focus on the “NOW” and how this now is shaping you.

Finding joy in a challenging situation may seem link a difficult request.  I do not mean that you have to be pleased with the situation, I simply hope you can look outside of the situation and find joy in other facets in your life.  First, focus on the things that are going with ease that  bring you serenity and happiness in your life.  There is always something to be grateful for.  You may need to even separate yourself from the situation for a moment; listen to music, meditate, take a walk, or do whatever makes your heart smile — even if just for a moment.

Finding your power during a challenge is of great worth.  Many times we do not recognize our own strength until we are forced to face situations that we thought would conquer us; yet we come out the other side a new person — a much more strong and resolute person many times.  Not to say that you have to get to your personal breaking point to realize your strength, simply handling daily challenges with patience, fortitude, and grace reflect your inner power.  By using the word “power” I do not mean power in the sense of wielding control over others. I mean gathering your personal courage, and empowering yourself to live a life of vitality and confidence.

I hope that each of you have found my words empowering, and helpful.  I do realize that this is not a blanket solution, and that every problem may not fall under one of the suggestions that I enumerated.  Yet, I hope that you can use this as a starting point when you face a difficult situation.  Remember, it’s all about perspective!  Sending so much love your way…

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Amanda

Let Those You Love Be Free to Be

“Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls”

– Kahlil Gibran:  The Prophet

Our relationships with others should mirror this concept.  Whether it be romantic love, or any relationship; love is not a manner by which to control another human being or wield power over them.

I absolutely believe in commitment, fidelity, mutual respect, and freedom.  Freedom is key.  You, and those you love should have the freedom to be your true self.  Do not allow others to hamper your soul, or mold you into someone you are not.

As we all move forward, I believe that it is imperative to take some time to consider how we interact with those we love.  We all may have been guilty at some point of being too controlling, or jealous, or a laundry list of other things. However, at this point is is more pertinent to consider whether we have learned from our mishaps, or have we fallen into a cycle of attachment and control.

I think a good thing to consider first, is that loving another is giving them permission to be.  It is not claiming ownership over that person.  It is okay to make mutually agreed upon commitments with an individual, but no one should feel forced.  Love does not have to be forced.  The more you act possessive over an individual and attempt to control them, the less freedom and joy they will feel in the relationship, and nobody wants that.

It is okay to let go of people who are not treating you with respect and dignity or who are keeping you from being your true self.  I am not saying to act rashly.  You may need to have a discussion with someone, and let them know how you feel, give them a chance to reconcile things.  Like I mentioned before — we have all made mistakes, and if we go on unaware of them we do not have the opportunity to correct things and move forward.

All relationships have bright spots and some trying moments; just as all flames flicker at times.  Let this current time of transition be one in which you weed out the relationships that no longer serve you, and send those people onward with love and best wishes.  This will allow you to focus more attention of nurturing the relationships that make you feel free, and alive.   I am blessed to have a wonderful husband and family (Including friends who have become family — YOU know who you are).   I have learned that all relationships undergo change, and that trying to keep someone in a certain mold or way of being is not constructive for anyone.  So much like Kahilil Gibran, I believe a loving relationship is best when it is like a sea between two souls — it flows freely, but always returns to the shore.

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So much love to each of you always,

Amanda

The Importance of Self Expression: Part 2 — Telling YOUR Story Through Art

We have each experienced a unique journey in life, and each of us has a story that can only be told from our perspective.

I believe it is important to share our stories through creative expression.  Share your story with whomever you feel comfortable with.  However, if you don’t feel comfortable sharing, simply expressing yourself in some manner; whether it be a painting, a journal, or various other mediums, is integral to letting go of pain and attachments.

First, you may want to consider what it is exactly that you want you message to others to be.  Even if your journey has not been easy, you can convey your message in such a way that uplifts others, or shows them that they are not alone.

For example:  My life’s journey has not been the easiest, but I have accepted the pain as an integral part of my journey and my story.  It helps to me relate to others.  I choose to express my story as one of victory and conquest over strife, instead of being held captive by the past.

Don’t let the past bind you.  You can choose to be a victim of your life’s struggles, or you can choose to be a victor, step into your power and help others along they way.

After you have some vague idea — or maybe you have a concrete idea, of what your message is; start creating.  Remember, you are a creator by nature.  Be industrious.  Do not try to emulate anyone else.  Look to others for examples, sure, but as I mentioned previously this is YOUR story, and only you can tell it.

Make set some space aside every day for some for of creative expression. Whatever you choose.  Jot down ideas when they come to you, and develop them when you have a moment to.  When you feel like you are out of ideas, or don’t feel content with what you are creating.  Stop.

The expression of your story need not be chronological or in exact detail.  I know mine hasn’t been.  Allow it to be abstract, quirky, or precise… whatever you YOU feel is the best for you.

As I mentioned in my prior post.  We all have a story burning in our soul, and NOW is the time to set that story aflame,

As always, so much love from me to you.

Amanda

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