To become truly free, is to live in a state of love and happiness. The Dalai Lama aptly states, “Love is the absence of judgement”. We weigh ourselves down greatly placing value judgments not only on others, but on ourselves.
Many times, people judge another because they wish to feel superior. Why do people do this? I believe it is because they do not feel truly confident. In this mindset, one tries to build a false sense of confidence by belittling others.
We are each on a unique path and our own journey. I have come to the realization that just because I may disagree with another, or misunderstand their ways, in no way means I am superior to them. Conversely, just because someone seems to be at a higher level in any facet of life than myself, does not mean they are superior to me.
The core issue is comparing ourselves to others, and placing value judgments on them. I for one, have no desire to compete. I think it is key to try to understand one another. So much of the trouble we have faced has been due to misunderstandings and rash value judgments. The type of judgments that cause both inner and outer conflict.
So, I propose that we shift our focus. Shift from judgment, which creates fear, to understanding, which leads to acceptance and love. When we give others the freedom to be themselves in a comfortable and loving environment we create space for the same experience in our own lives.
Approach people with an open mind and a compassionate heart and your life will surely transform. In doing so, you begin to see a bit of yourself in every person you encounter, and feel a deeper connection to all of. This works not only with humans, but with animals and nature as a whole. Look for beauty, and you will find it.
As a final thought:
“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.
We leave you a tradition with a future.
The tender loving care of human beings will never become obsolete.
People even more than things have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed and redeemed and redeemed.
Never throw out anybody.
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you’ll find one at the end of your arm.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands: one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.
Your “Good ‘ol days” are still ahead of you, may you have many of them.”
-Sam Levenson, In one Era & Out the Other
I hope this post has encouraged you to seek out the good in everyone. To look at one another through eyes of love and not judgment.
Sending so much warmth your way,