The concept of mentally projecting onto others is a major block in relationships of all sorts, that lead to misunderstandings, misconceptions and misperceptions of us and others. As I have said before, relationships are an outer expression of us, of our desires, goals, purposes, lessons, of who we are and inevitably of the vibration and frequency we are holding within. They are simply an outer manifestation of our inner universe, a facet of our existence.
Often times, other people are mirrors of ourselves. When we look in a mirror, we see ourselves. Sometimes the same thing happens with people in our life – we see us in them. We see aspects of ourselves in them. The way we see others could be influenced by belief systems we hold onto, judgement, social programming, dualistic perceptions, unresolved “issues” we resist letting go of and other things that have yet to be released from our psyche. As a result of that, we get a distorted image of the person that sits in front of us and then we buy into it so bad that we think that person is exactly the way we see it. But is it so ?
In order to be able to see clearly, we have to be clear within of all those things I have mentioned above, to crystallize our vision, to purify. The key, as in most cases, is awareness. We can only release something from our psyche, if we know it’s there, if we acknowledge it. That’s why meditation and all other forms of increasing awareness are highly recommended, because becoming aware is the first and most important step and facet of our evolution.