Since the start of the New Year there has been a large energetic shift that has affected everyone in varying degrees. The amount in which you have felt and gained from this shift signifies the amount of soul work you have done prior to this moment. For some, this period will bring about harmony, a time of joining with others and finding your place in the world. There will be changes made, but they will all be made in the flow and therefore will feel guided and natural. For others, this time will bring about great changes within and out. For there will be choices that must be made. The choice between honoring your highest good and continuing patterns will be made.
For this purpose we would like to discuss soul contracts and unconditional love. We hope that with greater understanding of these concepts, the choice to choose your absolute highest good becomes clear. When you decide to come into earth, you create soul contracts with many. Some are simple and brief; for example the woman at the grocery store that while in a conversation is able to give you an idea that you had not previously considered. Others can be long and complex, such as contracts with family and romantic partners. All contracts regardless of their duration are designed to help you grow. Long standing contracts are designed to change in dynamics and grow as you grow and learn.
Not all contracts are meant to stay with you forever, some may need to end for continued soul growth. This concept has never proved more difficult than when it is with a loved one. You have been programmed that unconditional love means staying by some one’s side, accepting who they are and their actions regardless of the cost to self. This cannot be further from the truth. Unconditional love means that you are willing to allow another to experience the life they have chosen for their own soul growth. It does not mean that you have to participate in their life and it certainly does not mean that you should sacrifice yourself and your soul growth.
Those in unhealthy relationships have contracted with each other for lessons to be provided. The abusive spouse may have contracted to help teach the other to stand up for themselves and not allow themselves to be mistreated. Once the lesson is learned, the partner breaks free from the relationship and the contract is over. The hope is that the lesson of caring and loving oneself was learned so that the behavior and relationship choice is not repeated. While and abusive spouse is an extreme example, there are many smaller contracts and relationships that are also testing your ability to act in your highest good at all times. If someone is emotionally, financially, or physically draining on you, then to continue would not be in your highest good. Your relationship and the boundaries created needs to be changed so that your highest good is done.
Many of you on this path are empathic and have an unlimited capacity to love. It is in your nature to want to help another, we understand the desire and admire your open, loving hearts. However, understand that balance must be kept. You must find a space within yourself that allows you to be open, loving, giving without sacrificing yourself. To constantly do things for another, to give of yourself, without the other person assuming responsibility and accountability is actually hindering both of your soul growth.
Think back to when you learned a skill such as riding a bike. You feel, you struggled, you may have even bruised and bloodied yourself. If your parent had stepped in for fear you would get hurt, you never would have learned. It may have been uncomfortable, even nerve wracking for your parent to watch you get hurt and frustrated. They pushed on, allowing you to learn and succeed because they knew the reward was worth the pain. Now take this to a grander scale, you may have someone in your life who is always in crisis needing help. You can assist them time and time again or you can allow the person to fall, get hurt, so that they are then forced to make new and different decisions. This can be painful to watch, especially for open hearted souls, but understand the power of letting someone experience and learn from their creation is very important. This is in fact unconditional love. You may have contracted with this person to help them learn self sufficiency, self reliance and the ability to persevere. If you are constantly rescuing them, you are not honoring your contact.
Allow this energetic shift to illuminate areas in your life where you need to renegotiate contracts so that your highest good , your highest joy is achieved in all things. Allow this energy flooding your planted to not only purge the toxins from your body, but those in your thoughts. Allow it to help you find balance in relationships and the courage to make change, even radical change when needed. Honor yourself and your highest good, in that happiness and reunion with self lies.
On a personal note:
The idea of contracts and lessons was shown very clearly in a dream last week. Years ago, our family took in a foster child, he was not a bad kid, but had anger issues and uncontrollable rage at points. His anger really affected me, I started retracting inside myself and was extremely stressed. I began to have nightmares of my childhood memories of my father going into a drunken rage. As an empath, it was not easy living in that house as a child, I honestly thought I had healed and forgiven my dad for his outbursts and their affects on me. This foster child, showed me very clearly that I had not completed my healing and it didn’t take much to bring it all back. Our relationship with this teen ended not because of his anger and my reaction but because we learned that it’s not a good idea to have a teen boy in a house with teen girls, this was 6 years ago. Last week I had a dream that I saw him and I thanked him for honoring his contract to show me that I still had parts needing healing from my childhood. He hugged me and said that it was his pleasure. I woke from that dream understanding even more about the gift people bring us all the time even if at the time it doesn’t feel like a gift.
*** As with all information we receive regarding the ascension process, discernment is necessary. If you read or hear something and it does not resonate, simply let it go and find what makes your soul say YES!
Much love to you, Jenny Schiltz